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The loving thing

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Ginger: and that is the loving thing to do — to give them that ability. Alright, here’s another question. This says, “My Christian friend is very negative to the point where she complains to me about her life for hours on a regular basis. I don’t want to be ungodly to her.  I want to handle her with love but it’s affecting my life. What do I do?”

Joyce Meyer Ministries: she needs to talk to her. She needs to confront her in a loving way; speak the truth in love the bible says in Ephesians 4. She needs to tell her, “I love you and I know you have problems but you’re not helping yourself by talking about them all the time.  All it does is just keeps you stirred up. You need to talk about possibilities.  You need to talk about the positive things in your life.  And not only have that, as your friend I’ve listened to you so much that it’s starting to pulled me down. And like I said, I don’t want to hurt you, I want to be your friend, but I really can’t be your friend on this basis.”

Ginger: now, you never know how somebody’s going to react; she may not get the reaction she wants but that’s important that she does what she needs to do for her friend and for herself?

Joyce: yes.  I think we also have to ask ourselves, “well, is a person like that really my friend or are they just using me as a dumping ground?”  if you have any sensitivity at all, you’re going to realize that if all you do is talk to somebody about your problems, that’s not really a relationship because it’s all about you. Joyce Meyer Online you want to have a friend that you can say, “I’m going through something. I’d like to talk to you about it if it’s okay. Can you pray for me?” but you don’t have to just keep it up and keep it up and keep it up and keep it up. Some people really just are negative.  I mean, they just have a negative bent and they don’t see any of the good things in life.  Really, that’s not the kind of people that you want influencing your life. I do believe that we are affected by the people that we’re around, and we need to be around people who are like what we want to be.  Now that doesn’t mean that you don’t want to help people or that you never get involved with people who are hurting or people who have problems.

Joyce Meyer –  But what I say all the time is you can be around people who aren’t behaving right to “this” degree. As long as you’re affecting them and they’re not infecting you, you’re okay.  But if they’re infecting you and you’re not affecting them anyway, then what’s the point?

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